People often appreciate things more when they've earned them rather than given them deliberately or intentionally. It's a common saying that if you can't do good, it's better to do nothing. When helping others, it's often more evocative to focus on their specific requests. While a caring nature can be a positive quality, it can also lead to unmet expectations. It's natural for people to expect help from those they perceive as caring, but offering assistance only when requested can avoid misunderstandings. When you help someone willingly, without expecting anything in return, it can be a truly fulfilling experience.
Choosing carefully whom to help is an important task. I suggest this because I've seen people who are extremely self-centered and selfish, taking without even saying thanks. I don't mean to imply that we haven't done this ourselves. Sometimes we don't express gratitude to those who provide services, just because they're in that role. But don't they deserve our thanks too? Imagine how we'd feel if we helped someone and they didn't even offer a simple thank-you. It hurts, right? Why keep that inside? Just be a giver when asked, assisting without expectation.
No matter how much we write, read, or practice compassion, there is always a hint of self-interest and selfishness within the human soul. When this selfishness is under control, people perceive us as having a positive energy. However, when someone's desire for success becomes uncontrollable, this selfishness can produce turmoil for peace-loving individuals, and such people often become imprisoned in their egotism. They never ask for help; they simply demand it.
When we are not discerning in our generosity and try to help everyone, we can fall into the clutches of selfish, egotistical individuals. We may believe that our giving nature will change them, but this is not the case. A person can strive for self-improvement each day, but when they become too confident in their current state, they may use others for their selfish desires. These people do not comprehend the concept of reciprocation. Therefore, I always suggest that givers should not simply offer their help to anyone and everyone. Let people ask for assistance, do not expect anything in return, and do not assist those who are unworthy.